NO GOODBYES: The Mysterious Disappearance of the McStay Family
A blog and book by Rick Baker about the Mysterious Disappearance of the McStay family on February 4, 2010. In the past three years, the author has spent countless hours investigating this mystery by following an extensive paper trail, interviewing friends and family and traveling to locations of possible sightings. "What you have said in the dark will be heard in the daylight, and what you have whispered in the ear in the inner rooms will be proclaimed from the roofs."
Tuesday, June 18, 2013
PASS: The Prickology Association of Sad Sociopaths
I think that the following editorial by Josh is a perfect example of what we have seen with many of the posters following the McStay case.
Josh Gad: O'er the land of the free to be bullies online
Josh Gad, Special for USA TODAY
7:12 a.m. EDT June 18, 2013
USA TODAY columnist finds the lesson in the insults hurled at young Sebastien De La Cruz.
It took a lot of fearlessness and a great deal of creative inspiration, but last Tuesday during Game 3 of the NBA Finals, a group of highly skilled writers got together and courageously disparaged an 11-year-old Mexican boy who sang the national anthem.
Sebastien De La Cruz, you should have known better. Your 132 months on Earth should have been enough to teach you that you never sing the national anthem in a way that might incense middle-aged people who all have Ph.D.s in prickology: the study and practice of being a prick with access to the Internet.
You see, little Sebastien, the second you came out in your "authentic" Hispanic attire, you undermined the unsaid pact that was made with the members of PASS — the Prickology Association of Sad Sociopaths. That pact states clearly (even though there is no document available for review) that everyone should know what might offend the sensibilities of someone online at any given time.
Now, Sebastien, you must learn to take this tidal wave of criticism and hatred like a man. You see, it matters not that just about every week, someone is bullied by people hiding behind the veil of cyber anonymity. Or that it usually takes a suicide to bring attention to the repercussions of being outnumbered by a barrage of online venom. On a daily basis, I'm called fat, untalented, worthless and a hack. And that's just from my 13-year-old neighbor, Braff Dirgley, who just learned to use Twitter. Braff, a student of this brave new world of online harassment, explained to me that I needed to have a lesson in the rules of PASS.
Not to be silenced by bullies, Sebastien De La Cruz does his encore of the national anthem before the NBA Finals' Game 4 on Thursday in San Antonio.(Photo: Derick E. Hingle, USA TODAY Sports)
You see, our parents taught us that sticks and stones may break our bones, but words can never hurt us. But what they failed to account for was those words being digitally sent at the push of a button to millions of people who are keen to rip us apart. Words that are now loaded in little computer-coded missile silos and launched at the speed of light directly into our hearts. Words that come cascading down on us like a never-ending hailstorm. Because according to the laws of PASS, there are no feelings, emotional responses or dark thoughts that can come from being disparaged by hundreds of people in a matter of seconds.
In the words of my neighbor Braff Dirgley, "Stop taking things so personally. It's just an (expletive) tweet, dawg."
In response to the many, some might say, "racially insensitive tweets," little Sebastien responded with: "I think the people were talking bad because of what I was wearing, and it's not my fault. It's what I love, and I'm just proud to be a mariachi singer. It's their opinion, actually, and if they don't like mariachi, that's their problem. I love it."
On the surface, that response is nothing short of profound. (And the fact that he came back for a second performance Thursday proves just how courageous he is.)
Yet, as optimistic and savvy as that answer might appear, the laws of PASS still will never allow that to be the final word, because that unsuspecting 11-year-old began his statement with the grammatically unsound sentence "I think the people were talking bad ... "
Continue reading Josh's Column
Sunday, June 16, 2013
Happy Father's Day to Patrick and Joseph Mcstay
Hang in there Patrick. It's been three years, but who knows, you might see your son this year!
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Ask Patrick McStay Your Questions Here (Closed)
Many followers have questions they would like to ask Patrick McStay, Joseph McStay's father. Patrick has graciously agreed to answer questions that you may have about the case.
Get Your Questions in By 6:00pm (CST) Tonight!
"Patrick appreciates Rick allowing him to reach out to the public through this forum. As he is extremely busy he will take questions up to 6pm Central Time today then take a break. If Rick kindly agrees, he'd be happy to do this again in the near future. Thank you for your questions and for supporting Patrick in his quest for the truth!" Farrah
From Patrick McStay: "If anyone (Including Susan and Michael) has information that disputes (with proof) any of my evidence or information, they are free to come on my Facebook group or Rick's blog and post their information or evidence in dispute. If they have information that is critical to the case, then tell the public, be truthful and let the public decide. After three years it's time the public be told the truth and given the facts! I have no problem with anyone who has factual and accurate proof of other information in my Families case."
Join Patrick's Facebook Page. Click Here
Post your question as a comment on this thread and it will be relayed to Farrah, who will then submit the question to Patrick. I will give Farrah admin authority on my blog so she can post Patrick's answers.
Your questions must be respectful, honest and sincere, or I will not approve the comment and Patrick will not answer the question.
Let's get back on the facts of the case now. I think we have spent enough time on people who don't deserve any. So, ask away!
Get Your Questions in By 6:00pm (CST) Tonight!
From Patrick McStay: "If anyone (Including Susan and Michael) has information that disputes (with proof) any of my evidence or information, they are free to come on my Facebook group or Rick's blog and post their information or evidence in dispute. If they have information that is critical to the case, then tell the public, be truthful and let the public decide. After three years it's time the public be told the truth and given the facts! I have no problem with anyone who has factual and accurate proof of other information in my Families case."
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Here's What a Forensic Astrologist Thinks Happened to The McStays
Mountain Misst is a Forensic Astrologist. While I'm still not sure how those two words can match up, I am intrigued by her investigation and think you should read her work. MM has spent a bunch of time on the case. Here are the two links so you can read for yourself her conclusions:
Part One
Part Two
Part One
Part Two
Why Won't Media Ask Hard Questions?
I originally posted this on March 19, as I was fed up with the media no longer investigating. It seems to me that today's "journalists" are not interested in learning the truth about any story, only printing the regurgitated material.
Now, with the announcement of the SDSD "transferring" the McStay case to the FBI, the media has an awesome opportunity to do some "real" investigating. They should be asking the FBI and the SDSD questions like: Why do this now? Why didn't the FBI take this three years ago? Why even tell the public? What makes you so sure the border crossing tape is the McStays, or are you still 'speculating? Why, Why, Why?
The most recent national post on this development was by Gabriel Falcon with CNN. I know Gabriel and I like him, but once again, our national media has failed. Mr. Falcon, with the resources of CNN at his disposal, has once again posted a regurgitated piece with nothing new. Why is Mr. Falcon and every other journalist afraid to ask the hard questions?
March 19, 2013
Is the media afraid to ask the hard questions surrounding the McStay case?
Based on the national coverage in the past two weeks, it appears so.
With the release of NO GOOD-BYES, the media now has at their disposal, more evidence that might lead to a resolution in this case than they have ever seen in the public forum since the disappearance on February 4, 2010.
Yet, so far, all national media has chosen to ignore these facts and continue to write their superficial stories in a manner as to 'not offend anyone.'
What happened to investigative journalism? A possible murder is staring them in the face, and yet they go out of their way to avoid asking the hard questions and actually doing a service for their readers.
Here's an example of what I mean by "superficial articles." While this article is from the Orange County Register, so far all national media has taken this same route to date. Let me preface this by saying that I know this reporter was only completing the assignment given to him. Any fault here lies with the editors of the Orange County Register.
Here is the link to the article so you can follow along: Click Here
The article is divided into three sections: Author's Take, Michael McStay Responds and Law Enforcement's View.
I have pasted here the second section of this article and responded in red with the questions I would have asked, so you can see what true investigative journalism looks like.
MICHAEL MCSTAY RESPONDS
Now, with the announcement of the SDSD "transferring" the McStay case to the FBI, the media has an awesome opportunity to do some "real" investigating. They should be asking the FBI and the SDSD questions like: Why do this now? Why didn't the FBI take this three years ago? Why even tell the public? What makes you so sure the border crossing tape is the McStays, or are you still 'speculating? Why, Why, Why?
The most recent national post on this development was by Gabriel Falcon with CNN. I know Gabriel and I like him, but once again, our national media has failed. Mr. Falcon, with the resources of CNN at his disposal, has once again posted a regurgitated piece with nothing new. Why is Mr. Falcon and every other journalist afraid to ask the hard questions?
March 19, 2013
Is the media afraid to ask the hard questions surrounding the McStay case?
Based on the national coverage in the past two weeks, it appears so.
With the release of NO GOOD-BYES, the media now has at their disposal, more evidence that might lead to a resolution in this case than they have ever seen in the public forum since the disappearance on February 4, 2010.
Yet, so far, all national media has chosen to ignore these facts and continue to write their superficial stories in a manner as to 'not offend anyone.'
What happened to investigative journalism? A possible murder is staring them in the face, and yet they go out of their way to avoid asking the hard questions and actually doing a service for their readers.
Here's an example of what I mean by "superficial articles." While this article is from the Orange County Register, so far all national media has taken this same route to date. Let me preface this by saying that I know this reporter was only completing the assignment given to him. Any fault here lies with the editors of the Orange County Register.
Here is the link to the article so you can follow along: Click Here
The article is divided into three sections: Author's Take, Michael McStay Responds and Law Enforcement's View.
I have pasted here the second section of this article and responded in red with the questions I would have asked, so you can see what true investigative journalism looks like.
MICHAEL MCSTAY RESPONDS
Michael McStay, who is mentioned in the book many times, said in an interview that the book is based on speculation and is not accurate.
"He needs to get a fact checker," McStay said. Okay, Michael, please give me some of the facts in the book that you believe are wrong? How about just one?
"This is not a soap opera, this is real life," he said. "We're holding out that we will see them again one day." Okay, Michael, if this is the case, why did you withdraw so much of Joseph's money just after he disappeared? If you did see him again one day, would you return all his money?
McStay said he plans to write his own book about the case with Dana Point writer and business owner Tom Blake, who was once married to McStay's mother.
"I just want a true reflection of who Joey and his wife, Summer, are," McStay said. But, Michael, didn't you despise Summer and accuse her of trying to poison Joseph, at least that is what you wrote in numerous emails?
Again, this reporter wrote the story he was assigned to write which is exactly what he did. It was not his place to ask these hard questions, without direction from his editor.
Understand that while I do appreciate this publicity from the OCR and all the other national and regional exposure this case is now receiving or about to receive, it is not enough.
This case is not about me. I have had my fill of being the front person to the sacrifice and exclusion of the McStay family. I am trying my darndest to get the focus of the media off of me and on what really matters here: a missing family.Tanya Smith and Update on Debbie Erp
In case you have not been following the hundreds of comments here (and why would any sane person do so?) I have asked Tanya Smith to stop posting any of her comments on my blog. I know what she has posted about me on Justice Quest and other Internet sites. You will see from the comments below that I called her a hypocrite for posting here and then trashing me elsewhere. She of course denied that she has ever posted "anything about me on Justice Quest. Well, I have many of her posts that she claims are not about me and I have posted one at the end of this comment thread.
AnonymousJune 10, 2013 at 10:08 PM
In case you missed it, read the comment dated June 9, 2013 at 1:30pm almost sounds like one of joeys closets people wrote it. and the responses below it. no mention of summer. Did joey in fact kill her then? I'm beginning to think so, but the million dollar question WHY?
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AnonymousJune 10, 2013 at 11:47 PMI have gone back to read that same post a few times. What stuck out to me most was how confident that person was in what they were saying happened. No mention of Summer-I'm guessing that was the "problem."Delete
AnonymousJune 11, 2013 at 9:56 AMReally? This is exactly how rumors get started. All I see in the anonymous post on June 9, at 1:30pm, is someone's 'theory'...nothing more, nothing less. Whoever wrote that was simply playing off the idea that Joey killed Summer. I seriously doubt it was one of 'Joey's closest people'. EVERYTHING here is just theory, opinion, assumptions...based on some of the 'evidence' that has been presented (not presented by LE however).Delete
It's nice that we can all discuss our 'theories' here without being attacked, however, we need to continue to remember that they are just that, theories. Unless someone actually comes here and identifies themself as one of 'Joey's closest people' I believe it is safe to say we are all in the same boat...none of us ever met any of the missing family members.
Just my opinion...
Respectfully,
TLS
Tanya- please stop posting on my blog. I read what you write about me on JQ. You are a hypocrite and not welcome here.Delete
AnonymousJune 11, 2013 at 10:21 AMRick, I have not written anything about you on JQ. In fact I have rarely posted there in the last few months. As I have said before...I DO NOT POST ANYWHERE AS ANYONE OTHER THAN TLS51 OR MYSELF! I own my opinions and theories (even though they change often). I am no more a hypocrite than you or anyone else here...my opinions about people and circumstances have changed many times in 3+ years since I began to follow this case...just like yours have...how is that being a hypocrite?
TLSSo, Tanya, this is a Justice Quest post, from you. End of conversation. Please do not post on my blog any longer.
Here is the latest from ERP:
Debbie Erp
Farrah: No Debbie
Farrah, question, are you also ordained, in the same religious organization as Rick or is it different? Sorry, I am not up on what it takes to be a Reverend in some of the various organizations. I am getting ready to post some things and don't want to get the information wrong. Thank.Debbie: Ok, don't want to post the wrong information when sharing who is claiming some of this stuff.Farrah: Claiming what exactly? I've made no recent posts, other than my own opinions in answer to Dennis, that's why I said IMODebbie: No, I am going to post everything I know you guys have said. I am going to attempt to end this game and make it back about this missing family. YOU and PATROCK HAVE RUINED MY NAME ENOUGH. I plan to post all the money and law suits he owed Joey when Joey disappeared, when and what date Joey found out about it all and his jail time, that JOEY couldn't stop but it affected things JOEY did. That will end this, people will understand Joey may have walked away from this man who is such a user....as he is using you...but you are his support, the brilliant father. I am sorry, but he has pushed this to the point of truth being made public, WHICH I HAVE NEVER DONE...OUT OF RESPECT FOR THIS CASE THINKING HE WOULD JUST SHUT UP AND SEARCH FOR HIS SON. BUT HE DOESN'T GET THIS....AND I AM NOT ABOUT TO LET THIS NEW BOOK COME OUT BEFORE THE TRUTH IS TOLD. He needs to shut up and look for his son he ran away and stop ruining my name. The end.Farrah: I've never mentioned anyone's nameDebbie: No, ???? Depends on who you are posting as and also since you are speaking for Patrick, he does enough of it. You can not be someone's person to post everything they say and not TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR WHAT HE IS SAYING. You made the decision, not me. I am now going to show his truth. How bad a man these guys you are playing with and sending my way are. I hope you see the evil...you are such a part of.Let's see, they are destroying TES...a man whose child was murdered,They are destroying Tom Blake, someone who has never done a thing to Patrick.Farrah: Firstly I only post as myself - I've never posted as anyone else. And how am i sending them your way, that's ludicrous?!Debbie: They are destroying Jason, the father of five children and a hard working man.Farrah: I got on with Jason as you well know Debbie, come on nowDebbie: They are destroying Dan, Mike McFadden, Heather,...This is OVER AND ABOVE ME.Farrah: Dan did a good enough job himself when he stole the moneyDebbie: I KNOW WHY THEY ARE ATTACKING ME...CAUSE I HAVE THE TRUTH....BUT YOU...????? yOU DECIDED TO DO ALL THIS WITHOUT EVER STOPPING TO ASK WHY.He stole nothing. YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT AND WHO GAVE DAN ANY THING TO DO WITH STUFF. None!Farrah: I'm not doing anything Debbie I am not attacking you at all!!Debbie: fARRAH, I HAVE NOT MADE NAY OF THE STUFF I HAVE PUBLIC. YOU AND PARTICK HAVE DONE THAT.Farrah: The whole community interested in this case believes Dan is shady, a thief, possibly involved somehowDebbie: ME, I HAVE DONE IT ALL,. SHOW ME ONE UNKIND PUBLIC STATMENT I AHVE MADE ABOUT YOU.Farrah: I want to ask you somethingDebbie: WNAT ME TO SHOW YOU YOURS AGAINST ME?Farrah: Why do you always blame me and not any of Patrick's other friends??Debbie: DO YOU NOT GET THESE MEN ARE SHARING THE STUFF YOU ARE DOING WITH PEOPLEBECAUSE TANYA WAS IN YOUR POSITION AND WAS DOING THE SAME THING YOU ARE DOING NOW.Farrah: No I don't because I haven't done anything I haven't publicly broadcastDebbie: She stopped, we have a list of people who have tried to help him, they have all quit because when they INVESTIGATE, they find he is lying. You have broadcasted. I have seen it...first hand. WE have all tried to help him.....How do you think all of us know about who is posting what for him.Farrarh, this brilliant man is now going to ruin your reputation and his sons, cause I am putting a stop to it.TRUST ME....I am done with him using my name.Farrah: You don't have to, he hasn't used your name anywhere except his groupDebbie: BS. My name is on Bakers blog and you are feeding Baker. We have baker statement.Farrah: And where do you get the RB stuff?!Debbie: Farrah, let me say this, you can't keep denying stuff when people are getting the stuff from these men.Farrah: RB never mentioned me on his blogDebbie: LOL of course not duhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh he is not going to ruin his leakHave you talked to who he claims is his attorney?Farrah: And Jason hasn't even spoken to me about this at all, why is it only you?Debbie: Farrah, it is not confusing, you are not this slow. I know you know what is going on. And if you don't get it, just know that unlike YOU TO ME, I am being polite enough to let you know you guys have now pushed me beyond my point...and I am going to show what the truth is about the last two months of Joey and Patrick's relationship...so he knows and you know.Anyway, have to finsihe the dan post I have up...Talk to you later. What part or what type of Reverend are you, what do you want me to share?Farrah: I'm not an ordained reverend and never said I was, you're confusing me with RickDebbie: No I am sort of ....let me say, a tad more .....making sure I have the facts...that is why I am asking you. What part of this reverend part do you want me to share. The fact that most of the EVIL is coming from people claiming to be religious and reverends is just destroying my belief in God..... How sad to know people claim to be Christian and spread such hate. At least Patrick doesn't claim to be a REVEREND. He admits he hates certain types and people. Baker does too, but when he says he hates gays and things like that, he quotes the bible.Farrah: Well the reason I don't judge Patrick or anyone is due to Matthew 7:1Debbie: Farrah, if he was a grieving father, he would be out looking for his son and he would not be destroying all of us, Jason, me, others.... Here, answer these questions for me, let me see how much you know.1. How much money did Patrick owe to a credit card for EIP?2. When did he get the money from Joey and when did Joey ask him to pay it back?3. How much money did Patrick write checks for at each casion in LA that he went to jail for?4. When did Joey find out that Patrick had once again used his name for something that costs money?I will pause until you answer these, then ask you more....You should know all these answers right off the top since you are so supporting this man. THESE make him ....seem as questionable s Dan....what are the answers? I am curious if you will tell me the facts he has shared with you....Come on Farrah, you think the man is a brilliant father, please, share these answers with me. WHY did Patrick lie to us as a group when we had all offered to help him and asked him about a loan Mike had taken out in Joey's name .....and then we find that the attorneys had spoke to Patrick and he was told about the loan weeks before Joey was told. Why would Patrick have lied to all of us. There were 7 of us who had joined forces with him to help him....Farrah how many lies do you let someone tell you and still believe in them? HE set the standards...those one sided emails you see, wait until you see what they were trying to get him to stop, the hurt he was causing. wHY DIDN'T YOU JUST ONCE BOTHER TO BE FAIR ENOUGH TO ASK US BEFORE YOU SOLD US OUT? wHAT PRAYERS COVERS THAT?WHAT QUOTE FROM THE BIBLE COVERS THRETENING A CHURCH? Sorry for the capsMY GOD....the one I know, he doesn't do the things these men are doing.WHY destroy TES...I want people to know you are a part of this. WHY would you help these men do this?I so incredibly respected you. It is amazing how wrong we all were.....BUT I was warned, you just never know who you are speaking to on the other line of this social media. I wish I had never seen the evil I have seen on this case. I only hope these four people are alive....and hiding .....from all the criminals.I have proof you did them and it has destroyed me. Just destroyed me.... Yes, I did think I knew you, could trust you, but you YOU POSTED THE STUFF, WE KNOW YOU DID. There is no way you can deny it and I only hope when the investigation is finished, the laws cover you in the UK too.... YOU did not have to join forces with Baker to help Patrick nor did you have to attempt to destroy Jason and me. Why. How does any of this help find this missing family? That Is what I don't get.I am going to beat this book and make it worthless. Patrick's book, not the one already outFarrah: For the last time I'm not helping RB and I haven't tried to destroy you, Jason or anyoneFarrah: For the last time I'm not helping RB and I haven't tried to destroy you, Jason or anyoneDebbie:Lets see both those Debbie erp posts are still up....Good job Farrah.Farrah: If by Debbie Erp posts you mean the ones on Ricks blog, I have no control over them or over what RB says or doesDebbie:,One day at a time Farrah....we'll see.....You just can't make this stuff up. RB
Friday, June 7, 2013
Erp and Parmalee Prove That One Cannot 'Legislate Morality'
Debbie Erp and Jason Parmalee have now started another Facebook Page called "PMCSTAY LIES," with the sole purpose of disrespecting, condemning, slandering and libeling the father of missing Joseph McStay.
Erp and Parmalee prove that we cannot legislate morality.
By this I mean that if someone has a black hole in their heart, there is no law that can make that hole go away. They are diseased and while they may be forced to follow a certain law, they will not do so out of a good heart, but only because they have no choice.
Debbie Erp and Jason Parmalee have a black hole in their hearts. Their consciences are seared. How else to explain their attacking Patrick McStay?
They have never met any of the missing McStay family.
They have never met any of the extended McStay family.
They have never met Patrick McStay.
They have inserted themselves into this case much like a cancer does when it begins to claim a healthy human body, only to riddle the body with disease and death.
They have no personal stake with the family or case. They are an invasive cancer.
While Ms. Erp is emotionally and mentally unstable, it boggles the mind why Jason Parmalee, an apparently good family man, would couple himself with Ms. Erp.
Let me be clear: Any person who joins their group has become part of their cancer. They should be ashamed, but shame is absent when the conscience is seared.
There is no discussion about this fact. You join, your soul is diseased. RB
Erp and Parmalee prove that we cannot legislate morality.
By this I mean that if someone has a black hole in their heart, there is no law that can make that hole go away. They are diseased and while they may be forced to follow a certain law, they will not do so out of a good heart, but only because they have no choice.
Debbie Erp and Jason Parmalee have a black hole in their hearts. Their consciences are seared. How else to explain their attacking Patrick McStay?
They have never met any of the missing McStay family.
They have never met any of the extended McStay family.
They have never met Patrick McStay.
They have inserted themselves into this case much like a cancer does when it begins to claim a healthy human body, only to riddle the body with disease and death.
They have no personal stake with the family or case. They are an invasive cancer.
While Ms. Erp is emotionally and mentally unstable, it boggles the mind why Jason Parmalee, an apparently good family man, would couple himself with Ms. Erp.
Let me be clear: Any person who joins their group has become part of their cancer. They should be ashamed, but shame is absent when the conscience is seared.
There is no discussion about this fact. You join, your soul is diseased. RB
Tuesday, June 4, 2013
Jennifer Conner Wants Answers From Rick Baker
JC:
While I have some respect for you and I did in fact buy your book, I also think it would be a good idea for you to let us know about your financial situation regarding what your book sales have been and what you have donated to TES like you said you would. I also get tired of your games of " I'm gonna post ALL docs" then " no I'm not now gonna take the high road" now you've done the same deal with these creatures, Erp et al. You post then withdraw and give noble reasons. I for one think its because you may be threatened with legal action so you comply. It gets old though. Another idea that bothers me a that while I think the whole McStay clan is shady, I don't understand why it is so far fetched that maybe, just maybe , Saint Joey and his wife chose to voluntarily disappear and then had his brother siphon his accounts , sell the biz and send him money and maybe Joey even said hey, keep some for yourself. As shady as I think DK is, he could have helped too, no? I think Joey was into something questionable as far as income goes, just something doesn't add up , so the company he kept is a reflection. Why does it have to be the ONLY explanation for " Mikey raiding the accounts and stealing the business" is something nefarious and self serving for Mike and DK. I am NO fan of either but the jury is still out on Joey too no? I read all of Erps emails you posted and some very interesting things came up about you knowing someone who helped Joey withdraw money before disappearance and proof you had of a video Summer made for Blanche ( her mom). Receipt for six pairs of glasses? Where did Erp get these ideas? It sounds like from the tone of the emails, you and she had been communicating at one point. Honestly I too remember yet another post right when you first started the blog a while ago that you had up but took down where you stated you knew where the family was and what happened. I have a feeling this wont get posted but in all fairness if you think Mike should answer questions and not dodge them , shouldn't you hold yourself to the same standard? I spent money for your book and was hoping for more info out of it and felt kinda ripped off that you're withholding real solid info like emails and such. That's what I thought the book would contain but nevertheless it was a good read. I bought the hard copy plus the E book because I couldn't wait to read it. If you don't post this then ill know what your really about and that's cool. To each his own. I'm just a mom who lives in Tustin who has no dog in the fight but I grew up in San Clemente and this case has fascinated me. Thanks for hearing me out Rick. Maybe you'll answer my questions too!
Oh, my name is Jennifer Connor I don't know how to put my name in the box that says " google"
RB:
I don't know the book sale numbers yet. The first statement I received from my publisher for Q1 had only 50 book sales on it because I am only paid after Amazon pays Tate, which sometimes takes 6 months. The Amazon numbers are over 1,000 and I have sold about that many from my website. I don't have the number sold from the Tate site or any of the Ebook numbers yet. If you know the publishing industry, then you know this takes time.
Second, I have never been threatened with legal action. Let me be clear, I have never been threatened with legal action. In fact, I have almost begged MM to sue me and if he had nothing to hide, he would have. The last thing he wants is to get on the stand under oath. I know the libel and slander laws better than most attorneys, have dealt with them for many years. I parked the posts because my blog was getting off point, which is only to find the family. Debbie Erp has a mental illness and will never stop doing what she is doing because she is sick. Anyone who engages her is in danger. I just wanted the sane and caring people who may follow her to understand this. I know that many have now distanced themselves from her and her toxicity.
Third, I don't know what happened to Joey and his family. It makes sense to me now, with what I know, that the night of Feb 4 found Joey confronting Summer about a number of things and maybe it got out of hand? Maybe Summer lunged at Joey, he protected himself, she fell, died. Joey was then left with a decision to make. Call the authorities and maybe never see his kids again or, dispose of the body and go underground. Summer did not have many friends, certainly none who would miss her instantly. Under this theory, did Joey call Mike and tell him what happened, ask him to park the Trooper where it was found and then withdraw money from Joey's acct and get it to him? Makes sense, but again, we don't know. Does MIke know? I think so.
I left the safety deposit withdrawal out of the book because what I was told just didn't sit right with me. I only learned this after I realized I had been duped by someone in the family, (not Patrick). It was during this time that I realized what I had been told was not accurate, about where the family was and why they left.
The video tape (2 of them) is, or was in the possession of Summer's mother. I spent an entire afternoon at her home in Big Bear and we discussed the tape, what was on it and why Joey made the tape.
I have pasted here for you my final unpublished chapter from the original book in 2011. It will give you some insight into a number of areas not yet published, but also show you what I was thinking back then, much of it wrong, having not seen the emails. Much of this chapter came from my talking to "friends and family members" that I thought were being straight with me. I only learned later (when I read all the emails) that they had not been. Is any part of it true? Yes, much is, but some is not.
Thanks for your comments and for following this case. It is my hope and prayer that resolution is brought about for the sake of the two innocent children.
20.
What Happened To The McStays?
The Author’s Scenario
In doing research for this book, I was fortunate to be on the receiving end of Patrick McStay’s thousands of documents detailing almost every aspect of this mystery. This man has spent literally every waking hour in search of his family for the past 20 months, to the detriment of his health and finances. The invaluable result of this information, coupled with visiting four South American countries and conducting numerous interviews of my own, has led me to believe that this following account is the most likely scenario for what happened to Joey, Summer, Gianni and little Joey:
Joey loves his family very much. He adores Summer and takes very seriously his role as father to his three children, Gianni, little Joey and his son, now 15 from his first marriage.
It is from this son that I believe this entire mystery originates and ends.
Joey and Summer had spoken often about the hope of having him come live with them. Joey had always been and remained close even after the divorce and his son had often mentioned how much he wanted to live with Joey and Summer and his two half-brothers.
We have come to know the stepfather as an ex-convict who spent time in prison for taking a knife to his then-girlfriend and her lover. He may have also been arrested for domestic violence against his present wife, the boy’s biological mother some years back.
Joey and Summer were afraid of this man. They were afraid of what he might do if he learned they wanted custody of his son Joey talked to his father often about his desires to have his son live with them.
I should note that one of the main reasons Joey and Summer wanted his son to live with them was their belief that his son was being abused by his stepfather. They had told a few family members that they had proof, but weren’t sure how to proceed because of their fear of the stepfather.
For months Joey had been seeking legal help and had been trying to devise a plan that could force the courts to place his son with he and his wife but with little success.
Until, something unimaginable happened one August afternoon in 2009.
His son was at the home with Joey and Summer’s in San Clemente enjoying a Saturday afternoon with his dad and half-brothers. He was surfing on Joey’s computer, as he often did when at dad’s house. When he left the computer, he neglected to delete one of the websites he had been visiting. When Joey went back to his computer later that afternoon, he found the site, which was certainly nothing he wanted Gianni or little Joey to see.
Joey alerted Summer of what he had found and wondered if his son had spoken to Gianni or little Joey about this subject of the website. Both said they had talked to the boy about that subject.
Joey and Summer were furious. Should they call his mother? Should they talk to him? Was his Internet browsing just the innocent curiosity of a 13-year-old boy?
Then, suddenly, Joey realized that he could use these two incidents to further his goal of getting custody of his son. This was the perfect opportunity.
So, Joey and Summer devised their plan and carefully mapped out their strategy.
A strategy that would ultimately backfire.
Summer would file a complaint with the California Child Protection Services over Joey’s son’s behavior. Joey would not file the complaint so as to keep the peace and his lines of communication open with his ex-wife.
This official complaint would then trigger a thorough investigation of both families. It would include a detailed investigation and interview process by the agency for his son’s mom and stepdad and his living arrangements in their home, as well as Joey and Summer’s household.
Joey and Summer had high hopes that the CPS agents would find, just as they suspected, that his son’s stepfather had been abusing him.
Would the boy’s mother (and Joey’s ex-wife) tell the investigators what she knew about the alleged abuse if any? Joey and Summer had hoped so. The last thing they wanted to do was cause his son any more harm than what he might have already endured.
The investigation would last about six months.
Not a day, no, not an hour, would pass in those six months without both Summer and Joey anxious to hear the outcome. If they win, and the stepfather is proven to have abused Joey’s son, the man may be sent back to prison for life as a “Strike Three” offender. In California, as in many states, three felonies means up to life in prison.
But, what if the investigation didn’t prove the alleged abuse? What would they do? They believed they and there families would be in danger.
This was confirmed very early in the investigation when, according to Joey’s dad, his son’s stepfather called Joey and threatened both he and his wife.
According to an email Patrick discovered during his investigation, the stepfather had said to Joey, “Either you muzzle your wife, or I will come over there and kick you’re a*# and muzzle her for you.”
I believe that it was just after this threat that Joey started working on Plan B. He believed that if the CPS investigation did not rule in their favor, he and his family would be in danger.
He designed Plan B much like he would his exotic water features, leaving out no detail, addressing every possible flaw. If he ever had to execute this plan, it would be to save his family and it must leave nothing to chance.
Joey and Summer began to amass large amounts of cash so they could be ready at a moment’s notice to flee.
Joey bought a number of disposable cell phones from a Walmart in Temecula, California. Ten dollar phones that can be tossed when the 100 minutes is used up, or reloaded with more minutes inexpensively.
He bought new identities for his family, where in the San Diego area less than $1,000 will get you a new passport and International Driver’s License.
He opened another bank account in the name of his new identity and stored tens of thousands of dollars in a safety deposit box there.
He and Summer bought clothing and other essentials and mailed the items to destinations outside the United States. Some of these packages sent to Zaire, Haiti, a very small village in the mountains high above the chaos that still engulfs Port-a-Prince.
Finally, Joey knew he had to document the facts of the CPS investigation in the event something happened to him. He and Summer made two videotapes with their children, detailing their conversations with his son and his alleged abuse. The existence of these tapes was referred to in the CPS file, but they were not viewed by the agency or any other family member.
I know this because I have viewed both videotapes.
Patrick also has in his possession a set of written notes from conversations that Joey and Summer had with Joey’s son, that describe in detail the problems his son was experiencing. Patrick discovered these documents while investigating his family’s disappearance.
I am certain that neither Joey nor Summer had ever wanted to enact Plan B, for if they did, the hard choices that would follow would break their hearts.
Joey would not be able to tell his father of their planned disappearance for fear of what he, as an ex-Vietnam Vet, might do to the stepfather.
Summer would not be able to tell her sister, brother or her mother, knowing the pain and heartache this would cause all three.
The hardest choice for Summer would most likely be not telling her family, especially her mother, about her recently confirmed pregnancy. Would her mom have another grandson, or a granddaughter?
Summer would also be forced to leave behind her Guardian Angel. Bear had been with Summer for eight years. She never went anywhere without him. Plan B would mean leaving him and saying goodbye.
Childhood friends of Joey and Summer would be left behind to wonder what happened.
Joey’s business, now thriving, would disintegrate. He had worked so hard to build this business and was about to skyrocket it to a level of success he had never known before.
Their new Fallbrook home would eventually go back to the bank. They would not be able to finish the remodel or enjoy the profits from their efforts.
These were some of the hard choices of Plan B. Choices that they both agreed to execute if the CPS investigators ruled against them. The stage was now set and they would be ready to pull the trigger if they believed their lives depended on it.
That trigger would be pulled on February 4, 2010.
Chapter three examined what Joey and Summer’s day was like on that Thursday, February 4, 2010. Summer planned little Joey’s birthday party that was two days away. She called her sister and spent about an hour trying to finish the interior painting that MyGyver wasn’t able to finish the day before. At about 1:00pm, she puts the kids in their car seats in the Dodge pickup, ready to head out to the Ross Department Store in Vista to buy a few presents for her infant nephew.
She then backs out of the driveway, and stops momentarily to get the mail. The mail includes the usual coupons and throwaway fliers. She sees a letter. The return address on the envelope is: “California Department of Social Services, Child Protective Services Investigations.”
Her heart stops. For a moment she can’t breathe. She had heard that the investigation was almost complete and had been expecting the results. She wonders if she should open it now or wait for Joey. She decides to read it. Is it a short and to the point letter that states the investigation was “Inconclusive and no charges will be filed. Case closed.”
Summer is frozen in her seat. She replays the past six months in her mind. What did they do wrong? What could they have done differently? How could the CPS not have seen the abuse?
Their strategy had backfired.
Summer then drives to Ross to buy the presents for her nephew. She wonders if she should call Joey now or wait for him to get home.
Joey was on his way back from lunch with Chase Merritt, when he stopped along the way to deposit a $16,000 check he had just received for a past job, probably not yet knowing about the CPS letter.
At exactly 5:00pm, Summer texted Joey and told him that their strategy had backfired and that their worst fears had come to pass.
When Joey learns the news, he becomes dizzy and needs to pull over to get his bearings. He sits just off the Freeway for 30 minutes or so, trying to stop his head from spinning.
Summer texts Joey again at 5:35pm, making sure he is okay and wondering when he’ll be home. He responds that he’s almost there.
When he gets to the house, he backs the Trooper into the driveway and both he and Summer know that Plan B is now in affect.
The home surveillance video camera from across the street captures the Trooper leaving their driveway at 7:47pm.
As their SUV pulls out of the driveway and as it makes the left turn onto Avocado Vista Lane, it appears to slow just in front of their home, as if to say one final “Goodbye.”
Because of Summer’s fear of bridges, they exit their development via Panky Avenue and then turn west on Highway 76. After they have driven seven miles toward Oceanside and as they near the Old Bonsall Bridge, they both toss their cell phones out the SUV and into the San Luis Rey Riverbed, where they will stay until they are washed into the Pacific Ocean from the floods of March, 2010.
The new life begins for a family of five.
Epilogue
Bob, Tessa and their three children have served as missionaries in Mexico for over ten years. Living in a large Mexican city, their passion has always been share the Love of God with as many locals as possible. Following is their account of meeting Joey, Summer, Gianni and little Joey in April of 2010, more than two months after they had disappeared.
Tessa and her oldest daughter, Allison, have just arrived at WalMart to pick up fish and vegetables for that night’s dinner. As they enter the store, they pass an American family of four. The two young boys stand out to Allison. “The older boy had this wavy hair and was so cute,” she said, “and the younger one had a birthmark on his forehead. I said ‘hi’ to the boys and they smiled and looked real happy.” Allison’s mom tried to strike a conversation with the mother. “She was cordial, but I could tell didn’t really want to talk,” said Tessa. “The father never really looked us in the eyes, he always turned away and didn’t say much.”
As Allison and her mom walked the aisles of the store, they would pass this family twice more, each time with Allison saying “hello” to the two small boys. “They were so cute,” she would remember.
Again they would see this family as they enter the checkout line to pay for their groceries. “They were right next to us in the next line,” recalls Tessa.
When Allison and Tessa leave the store, the American family exits at the same time. Allison tells the small boys goodbye as their parents are putting them in their car seats in their minvan.
As Allison and Tessa drive away, they both comment on how cute the boys were. “I wonder though why their dad never looked at us,” said Allison.
Later that night, Allison was on the family computer looking at her favorite American website, yahoo.com, when up pops an alert for a missing family of four.
She leaps from her chair, runs to find her mother and says, “Mom, the family we just saw at the store, the one with the cute boys, they are on the computer!” Tessa looks at the alert and agrees. “Without a doubt, that is the McStay family,” she tells her husband.
Convinced that both his wife and daughter had seen the McStays, he sends the tip to the www.mcstayfamily.com, the family website. Mike McStay shows no interest in the sighting and emails the lead to his dad, Patrick.
Patrick immediately contacts the husband and asks if there were video cameras at the grocery store. “I am not sure,” he told Patrick, “I’ll drive to the store now and see.”
He contacted Patrick later that evening with the good news that there were cameras in the store and that they should have recorded Joey and his family. He told Patrick that the store would release the video, but only to the police.
Patrick would then contact the San Diego Sheriff’s Department about the sighting and Detective Troy Dugal said he would begin the process of acquiring the video.
The FBI was brought in and along with the Federal Mexican Police, requested the video from the store.
Patrick was told by the detective Dugal that he would be called once the video had arrived.
Weeks passed and no call.
When Patrick phoned the detective, he was told that the first video sent was the wrong one. Once they located the right one, it was sent to a specific agent at the El Centro, CA office of the FBI. When the video arrived in El Centro, this agent had been transferred to Washington DC just days earlier.
The video was then forwarded to the agent’s new office there. He apparently viewed it and sent the video to the FBI Special Agent in San Diego. Who then forwarded it to the San Diego Sheriff’s Department Detective Dugal.
The detective called Patrick and said the video was “grainy and no faces could be identified.” He told Patrick he would send the video to Allison and Tessa to confirm this was indeed the tape of the correct time and WalMart.
Both Tessa and Allison confirmed that the video was grainy and that they couldn’t even tell if it was the same WalMart.
“We know the family we met was the McStays,” said Tessa. “Their young son had the birthmark of little Joey, the older son had the curly locks of Gianni and Summer was wearing the same glasses as she is in all the pictures. The only difference was that Joey had a buzz hair cut.”
“The lack of any video doesn’t change who we saw,” said Allison.
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